Taboo Topics | Grief

Today I'm really excited about the guest post I have lined up for you! Once a month Allegra will be sharing her insight on Taboo Topics. This month she is talking about grief. Allegra is a soon to be former 9-5’er with a passion for kindness and joy. She writes a blog at hintsofjoy.co, is a certified Reiki practitioner, and is currently in both a 200 hour Yoga Teacher Training program and a life coaching program called Coaching for Transformation.  When she’s not taking steps to change her life, you can find her practicing yoga, eating chocolate, and begging her boyfriend for a dog.


Grief is something rarely talked about, but often felt. You can grieve a variety of things – the loss of a loved one, a relationship, a job, a pet. The list can on and on.

We all experience some type of loss at some point in our lives, and we all experience grief, but we rarely have opportunities to talk about and express that grief in a safe space.

We’re told to push through it, or to not make a scene, (what does that even mean?), or that there’s some kind of unspoken-yet-predetermined amount of time that’s appropriate, and if we experience grief after that allotted time then we’re weak, or selfish, or dramatic.

But that isn’t true.

These time frames and expectations of how we grieve come from social and cultural norms, but that doesn’t mean they’re doing us good.

Grief, like any other strong emotion, needs to be processed. When we try to push those emotions away, or are told by others that we shouldn’t have these emotions, it adds to, instead of alleviating the pain.

So what can we do to process our pain, while still maintaining our day-to-day lives?

  1. Feel it. It’s okay to take some time alone, and experience your pain. Cry, scream into a pillow, look at yourself in the mirror and see yourself having your emotions. It’s can feel amazing to witness yourself releasing pain.
  2. Reach out. Talk to an empathetic friend, or reach out to a counselor, therapist, reverend, rabbi, imam, guru… there are great professionals, both religious and secular, who have been trained to help process, accept, and work through grief. They want to help!
  3. Cleanse. Take a shower, a bath, clean your house, burn incense, sage, or candles. Whatever helps you feel refreshed and clean. Cleansing helps mark a partial release of grief. 
  4. Remember it’s a process. You aren’t going to cry once and then be totally fine. Things will come up – you’ll see something that reminds you of the person you lost. You’ll find out that a friend got a job at the place that fired you. You’ll be reminded, you’ll be blindsided, but you won’t be back where you started. Each time you process is another step toward feeling better in the long term.

Loss can be devastating.

Grief can be terrible.

But you are not alone. We’re all experiencing loss in some way, and we’re all at different points in our individual processes. To let yourself have a grief experience, and be kind and gentle with yourself, is the best step you can take.

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"The only courage that matters is the kind that gets you from one moment to the next." - Mignon McLaughlin

Splurge vs. Save

Happy Tuesday everyone!! Splurge vs. Save is back this month and we're talking sunglasses. Personally I am a person who will splurge on a pair of sunglasses because since I have blue eyes I have to make sure that my glasses are dark enough...otherwise my eyes get sunburn. And yes that actually happens!

What about you? Do you like to splurge or save when it comes to sunglasses?




"If you have only one smile in you give it to the people you love." - Maya Angelou

His & Hers Date Night

Does your man ever ask you for style advice? What he should wear on a date? If the answer is yes to either of these questions, then this post is for you! Whether you're newly dating or have been in a relationship for a while, date nights are a super important part of any healthy relationship. You both want to be stylish, yet comfortable and dressed for whatever it is you're going to do. I've created a his and her outfit that is perfect for a fall dinner and movie date night.

Her Date Night



His Date Night


Underwear can play a very important role in how you "feel" in your clothes! I think women have it down to a science on what they feel comfortable in and what looks good on them. For the men in our lives, I suggest Tommy John. Tommy John combines the latest in fabric technology with groundbreaking, innovative ideas on how to improve existing men's underwear designs! They provide men with clothing that allows them to be their most comfortable and confident, no matter the occasion, especially on date night!

What do you and your significant other wear on date night??
"A pair of powerful spectacles has sometimes sufficed to cure a person in love." - Friedrich Nietzsche

Thank you to Tommy John for inspiring this post!

Home Is Where The Mountains Are | South Tyrol, Italy

Today I am bringing you a guest post all the way from Italy! Kathrin is a lifestyle blogger over on The Little Day Dreamer from South Tyrol, Italy! She will be sharing a glimpse into life in South Tyrol and want makes it so unique. Let's get started...

Hi everyone! Today I want to show you a different side of Italy. When you think of Italy you probably think of pizza, the beach and warm weather. For the most part, this description of Italy is correct, but there is also a little part in northern Italy where there are no beaches and people's mother language is German. This little part is my home - South Tyrol - and if you enjoy nature and the mountains, you will definitely fall in love.


South Tyrol is a region of the mountains. It's suited in the Alps and the Dolomites and is famous all around the world. The Dolomites are also part of the UNESCO World Heritage. All our mountains are unique and a wonderful place to go hiking and explore nature. In winter we have a lot of snow and you can go skiing nearly everywhere. Being the first one on the slopes in the morning and breathing in the cold air makes you feel alive. Watching the sunrise or sunset on the mountains is a moment you will never forget. If you like traveling and you want to explore a place not a lot of people have been to, come to South Tyrol.

Not only is South Tyrol famous for its mountains and history, but the food is awesome too! South Tyrol mixes traditional Italian food with its own specialties. We have a lot of great pizzerias and the spaghetti is delicious. One example of a meal that you can only eat in South Tyrol is speck - tourists love it! Knödel and Kaiserschmarrn also make part of the South Tyrolian kitchen.


As you can see is South Tyrol a really unique and wonderful place. The history and the landscape of our home make us the people we are today!

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"A smile is a curve that sets everything straight." - Phyllis Diller

Tory Burch: The Paris Collection

You might remember that last week I blogged about my travel dreams to Paris - you can read that here! Well I got an email over the weekend and literally my jaw hit the floor. Tory Burch has come out with the most elegant, yet sophisticated limited edition collection inspired by her travels in Paris along with her new store, the Rue Saint-Honore Flagship!!


I am so in love with the collection I just had to share some of my favorite pieces with you!
 
Hurry fast before the collection sells out!! What is your favorite piece from Tory Burch's Paris Collection?!
"When unhappy, one doubts everything; when happy, one doubts nothing." - Joseph Roux

All images are from Tory Burch. Kindly With K was not given products or compensation to publish this post. All opinions expressed are my own.

Take A Day To Remember

Please visit www.911memorial.org to learn more on how you can remember and honor the thousands of innocent men, women, and children lost on September 11, 2001 and to recognize the endurance of those who survived, the courage of those who risked their lives to save others, and the compassion of all who supported those in their darkest hours.

#NEVERFORGET



"The world changed on September 11, 2001." - Christopher Dodd

Warby Parker: Introducing Fall 2015

Are you familiar with Warby Parker?? Let me tell you a little bit about them...


Warby Parker believes that buying glasses should be easy and fun. It should leave you happy and good-looking, with money in your pocket. So that's what they've done with their Home Try-On program. 5 pairs. 5 days. 100% free! Here's how it works:

1. Browse Their Frames - Pick out five frames from a selection of favorites. They'll ship them to you for free.
2. Try Them On - You'll have 5 days to take'em for a spin and ask your friends what they think.
3. Pick The Lucky Winners - Purchase your Home Try-On favorites at warbyparker.com. 
4. And That's It - Just pack up your 5 Home Try-On frames and ship them back. Return shipping is free! 

With fall right around the corner, Warby Parker is introducing a new collection...and I personally can't wait! "For Fall 2015, we’re all about roaming and roving. Fall is a season of accelerated movement: the wind picks up, the weather shifts, the days shrink. The whole world changes color. So do our glasses. Each frame is crafted from premium acetate and starts at $95."

"There’s also an abundance of never-before-seen designs—seven in all—ranging from new takes on rectangular shapes to circular frames with subtle angular details. Topping off the collection are a few familiar frames that have taken on the season’s new palette, which includes a handful of mellow fades -- rich reds, golden browns, cool greys, and other harvest hues."


One of the other really neat tidbits about Warby Parker is that they also believe that everyone has the right to see.

Almost one billion people worldwide lack access to glasses, which means that 15% of the world’s population cannot effectively learn or work. To help address this problem, Warby Parker partners with non-profits like VisionSpring to ensure that for every pair of glasses sold, a pair is distributed to someone in need. 


The Fall 2015 collection is available starting TODAY in stores and online; each pair starts at $95. For every pair of Warby Parker frames sold,  a pair is distributed to someone in need. Visit here for more info! 
"The heart has its reasons of which reason knows nothing." - Blaise Pascal

Thanks to Warby Parker for sponsoring this post! 

Fall Style with Autograf New York

Fall is right around the corner and if you're like me, you can't wait to start bringing out your fall clothes! I had to share with you a new designer that I've recently found that has the perfect shoes to compliment your fall wardrobe. From flats to sneakers to pumps to boots, Autograf New York has you covered.

What is Autograf New York??
"Autograf New York is a line of high-quality, Italian leather shoes and boots designed by Monika Kusinska-Paez in partnership with Italian footwear brand APIA. As the exclusive U.S. retailer of APIA shoes, Autograf New York focuses on timeless styles with improved fit and offers "signature style for everyone" with a wide range of sizes, including hard-to-find petite and extended sizes. Autograf New York provides free shipping and returns on every order every day."

Here are some ideas of how to pair your new Autograf New York shoes with your fall wardrobe!

Fall Style with Autograf NY

Fall Style with Autograf NY

Fall Style with Autograf NY

Fall Style with Autograf NY
What is your fall style?
"Our entire life - consists ultimately in accepting ourselves as we are." - Jean Anouilh

Kindly With K was not given products or compensation to publish this post. All opinions expressed are my own.

All Black Bloggers Fashion Week Outfit Inspiration

Now is one of those times that I wished I lived in London!! I have recently become a part of a great group of bloggers on The Bloggers Hangout! On Monday September 7 they are having a Bloggers Fashion Week - again super jealous that I'm not there! They will have photo shoots, a beauty and treat bar, a gifting lounge and will end the night with some fabulous fashion shows. This is one of those events that truly brings bloggers together and reminds us all why we do what we do!

But since I can't make it, I'm sharing my all black fashion week outfit inspiration!! And maybe next year I will be able to make the trip the London to attend in person...

#BLFW All Black Outfit Inspiration

#BLFW All Black Outfit Inspiration

Will you be in London for Bloggers Fashion Week??!!
"Learning to trust is one of life's most difficult tasks." - Isaac Watts